Blog 1 of 2 - Helping Children Understand Their Feelings

Have you ever noticed how different emotions carry their own energy?

Some make you feel light and joyful, others heavy and slow. This is because emotions vibrate at different energetic frequencies.

Rooted in energy healing philosophies, and popularised by the Hawkins Scale of Consciousness, this is a powerful way of helping children (and adults!) understand the impact their feelings can have — not just on their mood, but on their whole energy.

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Why This Matters for Young Children

Between birth and age seven, children’s brains are in a highly absorbent state. During this time, they form emotional patterns and responses that often carry through into adulthood.

That’s why learning to name, understand, and move through emotions at a young age is so important. It builds emotional resilience and lays the groundwork for lifelong wellbeing.

Here’s a simple chart to help children begin to make sense of the energy behind different feelings:

Emotion	Vibration	Description
😊 Happy	400 - 500 Hz	Light, joyful — heart-led, expansive energy.
🌿 Calm	250–350 Hz	Open, peaceful — where regulation and rest live.
😡 Anger	150 Hz	Hot, fiery — can move things forward but needs care.
😒 Envy	125 Hz	Tense, longing — wanting what others have.
😢 Sadness	75 Hz	Heavy, inward — often linked with grief or loss.
😨 Fear	100 Hz	Low, tight, anxious — survival mode.

Helping children understand feelings in this energetic way gives them a new language for describing what’s going on inside.

Supporting Children to Feel What They’re Feeling

Once you’ve named the emotion, help your child locate it in their body. First, encourage them to take a few slow, deep breaths to calm their nervous system.

You can also invite them to give themselves a gentle hug — by placing their hands on the opposite arms. Self-hugging is empowering and helps them manage emotions even when you're not around.

Ask them:

• Can you feel it in your head?

• Is it in your throat?

• In your chest?

• Or maybe in your tummy?

If they’re not sure, that’s okay. Gently prompt them with options. When they can feel it, ask open-ended questions like:

• What shape is it?

• What colour is it?

• Does it make a sound?

• Is it saying anything?

• Does it feel heavy or light?

• Is it still or moving?

• Is it bright or dull?

If they say “I don’t know,” try rephrasing with a curious tone:

“If you did know, what might it feel like?”

Or let them draw what the feeling looks or feels like. This process helps children feel the feeling, which is a healthy way to release it.

Naming Feelings Gently

When a child is upset, say:

• “I can see you are feeling sad.”

• “I can tell you are feeling angry.”

Notice the phrasing — feeling angry, not being angry. That small change reminds the child that emotions are passing experiences, not permanent traits.

A Final Thought

Teaching emotional awareness in this way helps children connect to their feelings with curiosity and kindness. It creates a safe foundation for emotional resilience and self-understanding.

In the next blog, I’ll walk you through some fun and creative ways to help children shift those big feelings when they’re ready.

Because when children learn how to notice, name, and gently move through their feelings — that’s where the real magic begins.